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Saturday, March 12, 2005
This word "men" forms partly the word of "women", so this somehow show me thats there's also another side of men who are really emotional.. but just that they cant really express themself in words or rather trying to act tough by covering their truth emotion and thoughts.. Women were always the stronger one when it comes to emotion, better in the sense of better way of expressing themself... but the world keep moving... some had already loss this god given natural abilities..
Men had ever since from history are creature who are stronger in physically but when its come to mental and emotional there are always or somehow the weaker one.. due to the lack of courage to really open up and express themself.. some of them went bought up in a way of crying was a shown of "Tiu lian" or weakling but this are not really truth.. some are always covering up their truth emtion, casue maybe their either being afraid of being known their truth ident or let make it abit nicer- dont want others to worry bout them ba..
For eg: A middle age men, father of 2.. son and daughter.. when his kids were younger... they were just like soldiers.. obeying any given command.. but as time goes on.. the kid will grow and start to have their way of thoughts and as a result, commands were no longer effective... At first, the women of the house will be the one who start worrying, getting too upset, this is the time when lots of encouragement and thoughts of accepting the fact that her child had evolve into a new stage of life were needed.. but in the end.. she will eventually recover and start to expect the fact that her kid had grow up and decision will be make by themself... "able to protect and make sensible choice by protecting herself".. thats the promise which the daugther had assure them... but as for the men of the house... at first... they might appear.. heckcare la.. or simply "BO CHAP" but deep down... they went really worrying like hell.. but just becasue "Mian ZI" lor.. haiz.. idiot... Then ear pierecing and heart shattering words will be used on the so call "problmatic kid to him la", why were this words being used?? Simple: they are loss with words and sense of thought.. cause they had no idea which way of handling will be nice or simply effective.. as a result the thought of harsh punishment were implanted.. cause "harsh punishment" had always been effective when they were much younger.. this was always the misconception whom most parents had.. This will be the time when a third party was required... only someone who are still having their cool and able to see the entire situation... u can start out with qns... Qns which are direct and striking.. qns with explanation of why their having this type of reaction.. try analysing their thought for them.. or best of all.. apply those harsh words which they had used on their kid onto them... let them know how it feel but place it in a way of mixture of explanation and direct harsh hit on the target..
If u've got the first step right.. then their reaction will be first denying whatever u have said, then kept quiet or paiseh.. then trying to accuse you of being such a power pack speaker whom they simply cant out talk.. Just play with fire and catch those little reaction or gesture... and u will be able to get some hints
Hmm... too lazy to write liao ... sianz.. wanna slp le..
simplicityrulez* @
10:04 AM
